Kids that grow up with instability and uncertainty often dream of building a safe, loving family of their own when they grow up. So when two people with tough childhood backgrounds find each other, it’s natural for them to bond — that’s exactly what happened to one country music power couple.

Five-time Grammy winner Faith Hill knew she was adopted, but for years her birth parents were a mystery to her. Her husband Tim McGraw, meanwhile, had a similar murky history. So when they both uncovered the details of their pasts, they discovered how universal the search for belonging can be…

Country superstar Faith Hill grew up in Mississippi, though, back then, she went by the name Audrey Faith Perry. Her mom, Edna, was a bank teller, her dad, Ted, a factory worker. They had a modest life, but the Perrys were a happy family.

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From the beginning, Faith’s parents were open about her having been adopted. She may not have been biologically their child, but that didn’t matter. She was theirs, just the same as their two biological sons.

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In fact, the Perrys had desperately wanted a daughter. Turning to a doctor friend for help, he promised to let them know if a little girl became available for adoption. Soon they got the call and little Faith joined the family!

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But growing up, Faith felt compelled to know more about her roots. She said in an interview, “I didn’t know anyone I was related to, biologically, which gives you a sense of not knowing who you are.”

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When Faith questioned her mom and dad about her biological parents they told her a common story: Her birth mother had been having an affair with a married man and became pregnant, so she gave her baby up for adoption. Still, Faith had lingering questions…

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This sense of not quite belonging was a big connection Faith shared with her future husband, Tim McGraw. Besides their love of music, they both had complicated family histories.

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Faith was raised by a loving family but always suspected there was more to her adoption story than she’d been told; Tim, meanwhile, had a more chaotic childhood. He’d experienced abuse from the man he believed to be his father, Horace Smith.

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Then when he was 11 years old, Tim discovered his birth certificate. In the space listed for the father’s name, his dad, the man who mistreated him, wasn’t listed. Instead, there was another name in his place: baseball player Tug McGraw.

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Turns out Tim’s mother had a brief relationship with the baseball star, and it resulted in a pregnancy. Tug wasn’t interested in fatherhood, and Tim’s mother kept the secret. In later years, they reconnected. Tug even lived with his son during the final year of his life.

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Just like her future husband, Faith sought out answers on her own. As Faith’s musical talent became more evident, she was more and more curious about her birth parents. Had they been talented singers too? She daydreamed about being Elvis’ long lost daughter.

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When she was old enough, Faith moved to Nashville to pursue her dreams of being a country superstar, but that wasn’t her only plan. Living on her own for the first time, Faith pursued the truth, tracking down her birth parents.

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After years of wondering, Faith discovered that her birth mother was a woman named Paula Conway. She was 23 years old when Faith was born, and she was alive and well. But that’s not the only thing she learned…

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The narrative she’d held close all her life about her birth parents was false. Paula Conway hadn’t gotten pregnant as a result of an affair: she and her boyfriend Edwin White — her eventual husband — were just too young and unprepared for a child.

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Her birth parents even had another child. Faith had a brother, named Zachary. Her birth father, Edwin, tragically passed away in a car accident when Faith was ten years old.

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As far as musical gifts, Faith was the lone singer in the family. Though some of her artistic nature could be inherited from her parents, as her birth mother Paula was a talented painter. 

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Even with her family history revealed, Faith didn’t pursue a close relationship with her birth mother. She didn’t hold grudges either. In an interview she sympathized with the tough decision: “I know she must have had a lot of love for me to want to give me what she felt was a better chance.”

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Tragically, in 2007 her birth mother Paula passed away. At that point, Faith and her biological mom had reconnected and just started to get to know one another. Faith mourned the chance to get to know her better, but was happy they had finally met. 

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It’s never been publicly addressed why Faith’s parents kept the truth hidden from her, but it’s clear their intentions were always to do what was best for their daughter. “The most important thing to me is my family, and that was definitely taught from my mom and dad.”

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Now, the happy couple walks the walk! Faith and Tim have one of the longest marriages in showbiz, and their obvious love for each other has cemented them in the country universe. The binding force that keeps them together after twenty years is no secret.

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The singing duo put their family first. Even their careers are intertwined! They tour as a couple in an attempt to keep as much stability as possible. Not only for their marriage but for their three daughters, too. They might be famous, but much like all of us, it’s their pasts that connect them and keep them strong. 

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