It’s never easy to find out that your child has been a victim of bullying; you want to do everything you can to protect them, and that’s often impossible once they leave for school. What might be even more disturbing for parents, though, is the realization that their kids have been the actual bullies themselves.
After all, everybody wants to believe that they raised their children properly. So what is a parent to do when they realize they might have failed in that department?
For Shropshire, England resident Terri Evans, the answer was quite simple. What she did had some people cheering… and others up in arms.
Terri Evans was furious to learn that her son, Jacob had been bullying one of his classmates—so she took to Facebook to humiliate him as punishment. She even tagged him in it so his friends could see.
“Absolutely disgusted that my 12 year old son saw fit to purposefully tread on a new girls foot at school and twist his foot with such force it broke her brand new shoes (causing the heel) to snap,” she wrote. “I’ll tell you something Jacob, if you so much as breath in her or anyone’s direction in a bullying manner I will personally hand you over to their parents for every demeaning chore they see fit for as long as they do… kiss goodbye to your birthday money as you will be buying the girl a new pair of shoes and a bunch of flowers! #iwillnothaveabullyinmyhouse.”
More than 55,000 people “liked” the post, with many applauding Terri for her no-nonsense attitude towards bullying. Others, however, questioned the ethics and effectiveness of publicly shaming her son. As a response to the criticism, she posted an update.
“Update: To answer a few questions. Yes my son can see it, he was tagged in it before it went viral (which I didn’t realise was going to happen) so his friends could see that his actions have consequences. He is not big, clever, hard, or funny. He’s a 12-year-old boy answerable to his mam. I don’t much care who doesn’t agree with my parenting style. My son humiliated and embarrassed a girl, regardless of his reasoning (which was he didn’t expect to break the shoe he just thought she may step out of it or stumble) that little girl still cried, for anyone’s knowledge that girl may have left her old school because she was being bullied… then imagine how much worse my son’s ridiculous act would have made her feel. So my so-called embarrassing him online is quite frankly nothing in comparison to the humiliation that little girl had to face walking round with a broken shoe and red eyes from crying when she is new.”
She tried to put a more positive spin on the end of the note.
“Ps… of course I sat and spoke to him about his behaviour. I didn’t just tag him in a post and he read it! I am wholly confident this was a single occurrence which won’t be repeated.”
What do you think of Terri’s actions? Did she do the right thing by harshly punishing her son… or did she go too far? Either way, this post certainly has people talking!
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